Understanding Abandonment: How to Cope with it and Overcome it

Tula Tzoras
6 min readNov 27, 2023

Did you know that placing a baby in its crib overnight can cause feelings of abandonment?

Abandonment can happen in many ways. It can be very detrimental to us. It can affect our mental health, create harmful patterns, and form our lives, our health, wealth and relationships alike.

Types of Abandonment

Physical abandonment occurs when we are left without necessary care, support, or guidance from a caregiver or a loved one in life. It manifests in various forms and can have profound effects.

Forms of Physical Abandonment:

  1. Parental/Familial Abandonment: This occurs when a parent or guardian physically leaves or is absent from a child’s life due to various reasons such as divorce, death, addiction, or neglect. It can result in a sense of loss, insecurity, and difficulties in forming stable relationships in adulthood.
  2. Childhood Neglect: Neglect involves the failure to provide essential needs like food, shelter, healthcare, or emotional support, providing a sense of safety. Children left to fend for themselves due to neglect may struggle with feelings of worthlessness or develop coping mechanisms that affect their adult lives.
  3. Relationship Abandonment: Physical abandonment can happen in adult relationships when one partner leaves suddenly, without warning or explanation. This can lead to feelings of betrayal, loss, and deep emotional distress, amplified when love and sex addiction are present.

Impact of Physical Abandonment:

  • Emotional Trauma: It can lead to emotional scars, low self-esteem, and difficulties in trusting others or forming close bonds.
  • Attachment Issues: Children who experience physical abandonment may struggle with forming secure attachments in later relationships.
  • Mental Health Challenges: It can contribute to anxiety disorders, depression, or other mental health issues due to feelings of rejection or inadequacy.

Emotional Abandonment refers to a situation where we feel deserted, disconnected, or unsupported in an emotional sense, often by those who are meant to provide care, love, or support. It…



Tula Tzoras

Tula Tzoras is a Mentor/Coach, Author, Speaker, Actor. Founder of Areti Goddess Events, empowering women to bridge the gender gap.