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The Trick to Letting it Go!
People often refer to what they carry as “baggage”. I often hear women dating say, “he has too much baggage”. On the subject of new relationships, my advice is always to drop your baggage before entering into it. If you haven’t finished dealing with your personal issues, you can keep working on them without bringing them into your relationship. Then you are able to create your new relationship as you wish! In fact, you can think of it as a recipe you put together.
When we travel, we can’t wait to drop our baggage, it is so often too heavy. On the subject of letting go, I think this is a great analogy! Here, I want you to think of everything weighing you down, on those terms. If you think of it that way, can you wait to get rid of it?
It is so common for us to become fixated on things that happen to us, especially if they are traumatic. In sever cases, we can suffer from P.T.S.D. Similarly, we can continually replay events from relationships we have with people. So many of my clients keep repeating events and talk about people they have had arguments with. This stops them from moving forward and up. It also keeps people in victim mode. Of course there is no doubt that we do suffer and we are victims of situations. The point is, that we have the power to transcend our struggles and thrive.
