Member-only story
Strategies for Conflict Resolution
Whether we are at home, at the office, in a relationship or with friends, conflicts between us come up. Some conflicts become wars that don’t end for decades and separate us from each other. This state of affairs can be detrimental to us in many ways. Strategies to resolve conflict then, are most beneficial.
Conflict can cause stress and anxiety. As stress and anxiety are harmful to us, affecting our health and ability to function effectively, we try to eliminate them. The cliche, stress is a killer, is true! Further, conflict can promote obsession, with our minds staying stuck on negativity. We then relive the dispute, now in the past, over and over, bringing the past into our present, creating our future. Long term, resentment and anger stops us from creating fruitful relationships and often results in disease. It can cause major rifts, between families, for instance.
The need to be RIGHT makes the other person wrong. If you need to be right, if you need to have the last word in an argument, know that it is a sign that your Self-worth is lacking. When the need to be Right is very strong, it is usually based on subconscious beliefs, becoming motivators. In Psychology this is known as a secondary game. These beliefs run our behaviour, even when they stop us from having what we really want.
